Is pleasing others good or is it bad?
Let’s analyze it from the point of view of women: their * smile *
… And for graphic purposes, let me use this belief: Giving our smile is giving our approval to the environment.
Many women can smile a lot in front of other people, to pretend to be in tune. They smile at those who look at them, they set a tone of being “good”. They act as in permanent “positive well-being”. They act as if everything is fine, although they secretly fear that someone will ask them something that might spoil their smile. It is a sense of “fake” positivism, and they cannot smile for themselves.
Well, that illusion of “false well-being” is commonly known as “autopilot”. Or “comfort zone”. Or “blessed ignorance.” That state where you totally depend on others approval to feel good. And unless you take an extreme turn, you may continue in the same vibration forever. Usually, women sustaining fake smiles during the day, once they arrive home, unconsciously affect their beloved ones, with whom they no longer have the energy to continue indulging, and simply the repressed bad mood erupts. And the vibration of the household is compromised.
Women who smile a lot while being observed, act differently when being alone. When in the illusion that nobody is looking at them, women, on the other hand, smile little, attack themselves in their thoughts, frown. They blame themselves and set a tone of being easily “annoyed” all the time. They act like in permanent “search of the worst-case scenario”, as in trying to avoid it. Same way, the most affected are those in their familiar nucleus, their children and beloved ones are the recipients all this repressed lack of authenticity.
Those are the two sides of the coin of women trying to “please” everyone with their smiles. Everyone, but themselves. They give their approval to everything outside of them, while they hate everything inside, at the same time.
Being a “people pleaser” is neither good nor bad in and of itself. The real problem is not having awareness of when we are doing it on purpose and when we are on autopilot.
When you are constantly pleasing others, and you notice that you´re able to smile at everyone, BUT not to yourself, it´s an indicator that something is out of balance. It’s like when you * know * what you have to do, and still, do the opposite. It´s as if you close off doors to the Universe, and shut the receiving mode of the things you want.
Pleasing yourself consciously is the easiest way to communicate with the Universe. In my experience, this is how I have successfully monetized my gifts and talents, and have created life to my standards where I feel complacent with me and with life. In this state, I may please others, just because it is only natural to give my approval to what surrounds me if I am usually in a good mood. And I also approve of myself when I’m not.
However, unconsciously pleasing others generates poverty, loneliness, and emptiness. It takes you to take a series of actions feeling that you “sacrifice” for others because you have believed that this is good, without being aware of the resentment that is building in the backstory of your mind.
Dare to be yourself, dare to please yourself, be passionate about transforming your mind from poverty (“unconscious pleasing”) into wealth.