Dr. Tracy Thomas, is a licensed psychologist, a best-selling author, and the world’s leading expert on Emotional Strength Training. She’s an interventionist, a behavioral specialist, and a high-performance coach. She knows people and knows how to get results. As a Coach, Speaker, Consultant, Strategist, and Entrepreneur, she turns her clients into leaders who take charge of their own lives and change the very way they exist.
She’s been published and featured in hundreds of national media outlets for her unique approach to mastering life’s twist and turns and has inspired millions of people to create a powerful relationship with themselves. In her quest to train the first generation of ‘emotionally educated’ people, Dr. T founded Dr. Tracy Inc. an emotional training company that impacts people all over the world.
Dr. T is the author of The Total Life Reset Manual and The Method, A Practical Path To Living Your Life’s Purpose And Potential. She coaches, trains and speaks to groups on how to live with the highest emotional capacity possible.
She is the creator of the Dr. T Solution, The Live Your Potential Program, and The Next Level Alliance, where she teaches clients to take control of negative emotions and self-sabotaging behaviors, so they can take charge of their destiny. Dr. T removes hidden obstacles so clients experience optimal wellness, success, and empowerment. In addition to running her Global Coaching Company and leading her kick-ass team, Dr. T has worked with top executives, leaders, and celebrities, equipping them with the emotional strength they need to lead their lives intuitively, strategically, and intentionally.
KIMBERLY MASKA: Welcome everybody, welcome to Spiritual Biz Chat for Spiritual Biz Magazine, I am your host, Kimberly Maska, and today we have joining us Dr. Tracy Thomas, a psychologist with more than 20 years of experience in personal development, who has created a groundbreaking technique for living life to the fullest, breaking damaging and addictive behaviors, and reaching highest potential. Welcome, Dr. Thomas, and thank you for being with us, how are you doing today?
DR. TRACY THOMAS: Thank you, Kimberly. I’m such a super fan of yours and Spiritual Biz Magazine.
KIMBERLY: It’s a pleasure to have you here, and congratulations on the release of your new book “The Method, The Practical Path to Living Your Purpose and Potential”! Before we talk business, I am first curious to know the story behind your personal journey down the path to your current life’s purpose and work?
DR. THOMAS: As far back as I can remember, I was always more emotional than either me or the people around me were comfortable dealing with. I just felt everything so intensely that even in my happiest moments I felt how being emotional made others feel uncomfortable, which made me feel even more uncomfortable than I was having the emotions in the first place.
I just learned from an early age that things were intense and I just didn’t know how to process my own emotions, as well as the emotions of my emotionally sensitive family members. I also noticed that I was in a family of highly emotional people who were struggling with their own emotions, and how that struggle made them struggle with each other. Basically it was everyone’s emotions struggling with everyone else’s emotions, and from a very young age it was obvious to me that although everyone in my family were good people who deep down really loved each other, they were ruled by their negative emotions and that made a very amplified emotional environment that no one knew how to deal with.
As an emotionally sensitive person I could feel all the emotions of everyone around me and because I wasn’t able to differentiate other people’s emotions from my own, I just lived in a pretty consistent state of reacting to a range of emotions that just began to burden me. I felt everyone’s grief, trauma, unhappiness, fear, anger, resentment, stress, frustration, and the pain was too much for me.
By the time I was 6 I had chronic insomnia and was obsessed with figuring out how to make people feel happy, so they could connect with me at the level of love I had for them. I just wanted to share my love with my family members and have us all be loving to each other. Instead, I kept seeing things falling apart because my family members could not manage their emotions. It was painful to watch people be anxious, nervous, angry, enraged, judging each other, talking about each other, not listening to each other, and making terrible choices in life because they were highly emotional without even acknowledging that this was the issue and they needed help. As you know Kimberly, the shame of needing emotional support is often the reason people will never address the issues.
I witnessed a continual progression of emotional volatility that lead to self-sabotaging behaviors, decisions, and things that were having a real impact on each person in the family. I watched my uncle’s untreated addiction ruin his wife and children’s lives, and I watched that ruin the rest of our family’s chance to live their potential as a result. I watched emotional issues ruin my parent’s marriage and I went on to experience my father suffer from his inability to process emotions as he acted out on everyone he loved. I was also deathly afraid of my father, who was so emotionally reactive in anger, that I was constantly bracing myself and holding my breath. I experienced his inability to be happy; even though everyone in his family worshipped him and it was a wall I could never break through.
I stood on the sidelines my whole life as my dad moved through 4 marriages and all that my emotionally sensitive self, wanted to do, was be connected to him. What I really wanted was the ability to be connected to people, without all of the emotional dynamics that seemed to make just being connected to people so damned difficult.
On the other side of things, my mom had been deeply affected by emotional dynamics in her childhood that made it so her father stayed away from her after her parent’s divorce, just because he and my mom’s mom couldn’t manage their emotions. I was a kid and I just kept seeing all of this wreckage and sadness that even from a very young age I knew was the result of people not being in the driver’s seat of their emotions. I was growing in sadness and despair, and I was also paralyzed in many ways because I didn’t have a clue how to deal with everything I was observing and experiencing, and the reality was I was experiencing everything in a really amplified way without understanding how sensitive my constitution was.
Looking back, from the time I was in kindergarten I was constantly distractible and I was all over the place interacting with everyone (they would now consider that ADD) and I was just very reactive to every kind of stimulus. On the flip side, my emotional sensitivity made me a charismatic, loving, connecting, supportive personality who was always entertaining people so I could make everyone around me comfortable and happy. I just wanted people to feel how good life was and to enjoy it with me the way I knew life was supposed to be.
I was able to make friends with a group of girls that I’ve now known since kindergarten and well before I was a psychologist; I was a natural human painkiller. Emotional sensitivity is a superpower and as a child I was already focused on my purpose, figuring how to help people feel the way I knew they were supposed to be able to feel.
It would be a long time before I had the solutions I have now, but I was determined to figure it all out because I just knew I didn’t want anyone to suffer the way myself and my family members were suffering. As I looked around and saw how fortunate we were and how much we had to be thankful for, I also experienced such a constant stream of emotional drama, that I was already thinking about how to escape from this world by the time I was 10, writing in my journal things like, “maybe if I’m gone they will realize that being close with each other is all that matters.” It was really intense and honestly, as I share this I can recall how hopeless I could feel at times.
By age 12 was developing an eating disorder, taking my queues from my self-medicating family members who used everything from drugs, alcohol, relationships, sex, food, gambling, achieving, and perfecting their appearance as an attempt at emotional regulation. I ended up adopting food, relationships, achieving, and perfectionism as my top modes of dealing with an emotional landscape that felt so far out of my control.
My teen years were simultaneously successful with academics, athletics, and friends, but my emotions drove my eating disorder, which was ruling my life. I put up a front, but to take one look at my pictures from that time, is to see a person who was very ill while also operating from a tenacity and strength that allowed me to perform at a high level all while abusing my body with the eating disorder and abusing my heart with an abusive boyfriend. It was as emotionally treacherous to be me, as it had been watching my suffering family members who I absorbed all of these emotional and behavioral dynamics from.
Although I looked sick as could be, no one in my family approached me about it. I was desperate for support because I couldn’t’ speak the words, and then one day my high school basketball coach took me aside and said he knew I wasn’t ok and that he was there to put me first no matter what it meant to my basketball career as his star player. I told him most everything and I felt his coaching change from teaching me free throws, to teaching me that I had to deal with what was making me ill. He offered to help me talk to my parents but I decided to write a letter instead.
So I wrote to my parents how sick I was and how much I needed their help. My mom took it very seriously and asked my dad to pay for a psychiatrist. I told the psychiatrist that I was emotionally overwhelmed and I needed help in being able to get my dad’s emotional support. The psychiatrist told my dad what I said and my dad yelled at the doctor and told him we were never coming back because he didn’t’ want to hear anything about this being his fault.
My dad told the doctor I needed to go on a diet, lose the weight, and “stop being so emotional,” a phrase I’d hear him say to me and others repeatedly throughout my life. It went so far my dad telling me that if I ever talked about him like that to anyone, that he’d never speak to me again. I knew he had the ability to just “cut people out” and punish them so I took him even more seriously than I’d taken him before.
I’d clearly broken the contract, “to not talk about emotions,” and this was as unacceptable as it had been my whole life before that point. This was a defining moment where I knew I’d opened up a can of worms by even expressing to anyone that I was in pain. I secretly made a decision to just figure out how to get myself out of emotional pain so I didn’t burden anyone else with something they really couldn’t deal with anyway. Still, I felt this was a sad state of affairs, and it was all because I was an emotionally sensitive person, in an emotionally sensitive family in the world that doesn’t provide any emotional education, something critical to our success
Years of the eating disorder took its toll, and I added in an abusive relationship with my “emotionally sensitive turned alcoholic” high school boyfriend. I found myself trying to help yet another person regulate his emotions, instead of recognizing that it was mine that needed my attention. While I was performing as a successful athlete and student I was playing the part of the emotionally wounded therapist when I truly needed to heal myself first. But as it often goes with us emotionally sensitive people, we’re really here to bring the sensitivity to others that is needed on our planet. At the time I just didn’t quite understand that my emotional sensitivity was both my big vulnerability and my greatest gift.
While I was starring on my college basketball team, and then graduating in just 3 years I was living out an emotional drama that had many generations of repetitive momentum fueling it. While simultaneously growing my intelligence, building the first chapter of my post-college corporate career, and buying my second house by the age of 23, I was on a path of divorce before I ever walked down the aisle. I so desperately wanted the happily ever after, I did a charade of the stylish bride, who couldn’t control herself from getting married. A 300 person wedding later, I was married to an alcoholic, and everyone including me knew it would never last.
Acting out the emotional patterns of my ancestors was just as painful as it sounds. But now I was simultaneously super successful at work, but behind the scenes battling it out with my husband the way I’d seen my family members do, all with the physical intensity that comes with being completely disconnected from the truth of who you are and the purpose you’re here to fulfill.
A 5-year stint with a six-figure salary, and 9 promotions later, I was on track for my second divorce. You guessed it, my emotionally sensitive self was trying to fix another emotionally sensitive husband, who was as nice as could be, but was never the right partner for me to begin with. It was a time before I realized the difference between who was supposed to be my partner and who was supposed to be my client.
As this relationship was winding down I began to receive intelligence that truly felt like it was being channeled to me from the source. There was this growing willingness to listen to what I now refer to as my internal navigation system.
From there a few pivotal things happened, I began to follow my internal navigation system that told me to move to Manhattan, no matter what kind of productive career I was having and even though it meant being 3000 miles away from all of my family back in the Bay Area. I simply had to follow what it told me and for the first time in my life I trusted myself and knew that this was the guidance that shone through all the emotional clutter we experience. It was a kind instructional voice that allowed me to relax and feel peaceful in trusting what I was supposed to do next.
So I moved to Manhattan, set up an amazing life there, and also followed the navigation telling me to get divorced, and that this was really the big moment of my life where I was about to come alive for the first time, with all of my capacity starting to fire.
But just as I was in the middle of launching my next level self, I got a call from my dad, that he was joining a religion, and changing every aspect of his life to be in complete alignment with every sentence of the Bible. It was shocking to hear that my non-religious father, was doing something this fanatical and out of character.
Even though I’d realized he was always teetering on the edge of a complete emotional breakdown, this felt like the furthest thing anyone who knew him would expect. This was extreme even for him, but he seemed hell bent on it and was already proselytizing about why we’re all so inferior for not following him immediately into his new lifestyle.
He became even more self-righteous than usual and overtime he did what felt like a siege on our family. As the leader of our big blended, extended family, he was dismantling his marriage, his partnership with his best friend-brother, leaving the family business he built that everyone’s living was depending on, and just dropping everyone and everything that didn’t’ go along with his new set of priorities. It was completely surreal for a mainstream, millionaire person like him to all of the sudden become fanatically religious, but it felt like one big emotional breakdown that we were all powerless to stop.
This was a person who had never gotten the therapeutic support he needed throughout his life and now, he was giving it all up to knock on doors, prepare for the imminent Armageddon and set his sights on the paradise that he and only his religious comrades would be getting into once Armageddon was happening.
Our entire family was in shock, traumatized, paralyzed, and desperate to get my father some therapeutic help to process his trauma (2 dads and one fiancé had been killed in car accidents). Keep in mind that we had no skill set for more “everyday emotional upheaval” so this was way over everyone’s emotional capacity.
We were scrambling to deal with this complete “flip of the script” and my dad was already gone. I observed how susceptible he was to have this cult of people start to “emotionally support” him at a midlife time he clearly needed some help as he tried to come to terms that his life was half over. Through the cult’s continual reinforcement that “they would be his real brothers and sisters for life,” he clung to them and cursed all of us for never having been there for him and only caring about ourselves. This group gave him so much acceptance that we all became enemies who weren’t to be trusted. It was like a bad movie you couldn’t turn off.
To say this was painful and destructive for our entire family constellation is the greatest understatement of my life. How could I have known that these damned emotional issues would literally hijack my father into a life of servitude that has ended up making him one of the physically sickest people I’ve ever encountered. His emotional issues have never been processed and his body has been melting down since the first couple of years he spent in this “religious” servitude.
What I’ve seen since then is the way in which people will run away and do everything to avoid processing emotions because they don’t have the tools they need. The more emotionally sensitive people are they can end up all over the place in these kinds of extreme scenarios and scenarios that involve things like a life of ongoing addiction treatment, where the main issues of emotional sensitivity are never addressed at its core.
Seeing this traumatic systematic destruction that happened to my father and our whole family in the ongoing wake of this issue was just more evidence that emotional issues that aren’t supported with real effective strategies, just progressively ruin everything in their path, despite people’s desire to change. The truth is that dealing with emotions is just as scary for people than the emotions are themselves. So people are extremely emotionally vulnerable, which is why we have so many problems throughout our world. People are just acting out their lack of emotional processing capacity, while they are just trying to function in a society that isn’t fully equipped to support the most emotional people.
So while I was away enjoying the fabulousness of Manhattan I was grieving the loss of my father, who was still alive but felt like an alien or an entity has truly taken over. Now I was left to figure out a roadmap for dealing with the unthinkable. I mean, there was no script for what to do when your family member has literally “left the building,” “picked up all of his toys,” opted out of your family, put up a wall to keep you out, but still wants to recruit you into his cult with his life-long, top salesman skills.
There it was. I could see another “check on the scoreboard” for emotional issues hurting the people that I loved. And while I felt powerless, I still knew I would never give up on finding a way to make it easier for me and others to deal with their emotions productively.
It’s not shocking to reflect back on where I was growing emotionally stronger and where I was still acting out self-sabotaging patterns in relationships. A few relationships later I could see how much emotional work I had to do feel safe in a great relationship, and that’s where I put my focus once I’d finished my last round of the repetitive relationship pattern.
Upon extracting myself from a relationship with a chronic liar and cheater, I was clear I was the creator of everything that was so negative in my life because that is the emotional capacity I had. The relationship with myself was full of denial because, in fact, I was a liar. I was living a lie in every single area of my life where I wasn’t congruent with my truth and living in integrity with what I really wanted to do. I was performing a version of myself each step I took that wasn’t honest me and those around me. I was in effect having a self-abusive relationship with myself by not processing my own emotions and my deepest truths for the wisdom that was available.
The light bulb went on I had my new religion, which was creating a great relationship with myself where I lived in total integrity with what my own internal navigation system was guiding me to do.
I felt awakened to my life at the highest emotional level I’d ever experienced before and all at once. I was receiving tons of guidance that was filling my life with every answer to every question I’d ever had and every solution I’d ever needed. I was just flowing with every fiber of my being and I was truly alive.
I went on to create an intimate relationship with myself over the course of a year and through that relationship, everything in my life up leveled in response to every act of self-leadership I did. Every moment I was tuned into myself, every moment I trusted the guidance, the feedback loop was so positively strong that it felt like I was moving mountains with just a little bit of intentional focus.
I was in the flow of my power and there was no effort required, simply the willingness to live in the closest connection to myself and to be consistently intentional in everything I focused on, every action I took, and every word that I spoke. It was the greatest spiritual awakening I could possibly imagine.
Through that great spiritual expansion came the expansion of my emotional capacity as I built up a super strong emotional foundation with the intentional, purpose-driven things I thought about or did. I could see that our powerful creative mechanism is always on we just need the emotional strength and focus to work with this incredible power that everyone possesses and to always give it an intention to follow.
I also saw that the great illness in the world was stemming from both the lack of emotional development that people needed, but also the sickness that comes from not living your own unique purpose. It was clear that using someone else’s “prescription” for being a person wasn’t working for most people, as our “happiness” statistics continue to reveal. I saw the nature of depression and anxiety as rooted in the attempt to fulfill the “prescription for being a person” as if anyone else’s prescription could work for you. It made no sense, and I vowed to understand my great purposes, to live them fully in order to also get the scientific data on it and to share everything I learned with other people.
As I applied my methodology to myself, the emotional roller coaster smoothed out and the remnants of my emotional struggles continued to fade away. I could transcend any suffering at any moment and I was free from the last parts of food addiction, dieting obsession, excess weight on my body, and all of this was happening through just doing exactly what I knew was best for me no matter what anyone else was doing…
Instead of hardcore exercise, I danced, walked and did yoga. Instead of saying yes when I meant no I said, “I have other plans” and I did what I knew I was supposed to do no matter how much I was conditioned to totally betray myself. I knew if I didn’t follow my navigation it would blow up in my face, so I stayed the course of consistent connection to myself, trusting exactly what I needed to do to take care of myself, and giving myself the personal attention I’d been craving from others my entire life. This was in place of the trauma-inducing self-neglect that I’d experienced for so long.
I had already been working to complete my doctorate in psychology and that was going very well. Now I was that much more motivated to shift from corporate trainer to psychologist, which I saw as akin to each other. After years of leading high-performance teams to high-performance outcomes, this new chapter was all about growing the clinical expertise to heal disease through helping people build the emotional capacity to self-regulate, to self-heal, and to strengthen their ability to perform at their highest operating capacity. I knew it was one big comprehensive human matrix and that the most effective approach for people was to address the “total person” to be operating at their top operating capacity, from the emotional foundation up.
Because addiction has been such a theme in my family and I could see this was a great cluster fuck of a “treatment system,” I focused on the matrix of the addiction recovery process and why it didn’t work for most people. My navigation system told me that I was supposed to start in this area and to bring my evolving methodology to the addiction world where I could replace the powerless, defective paradigm with the powerful, creative, high-performance one. It was clear that I was supposed to address everything at the emotional root causal level, train people into a consistent connected relationship with themselves, and have them focus on their purpose instead of their illness.
This process worked like a charm and immediately I was getting clients results that they’d been searching for through an average of 15 years of addiction, 12 rehabs, 10 years of therapy, 27 different medications, and countless recovery meetings. The people I was helping were the people that didn’t’ fit into the regular prescription for being a person, and they certainly didn’t fit into the prescription the addiction treatment centers wanted to give them; a cookie cutter one for sure.
I could see with total clarity that addiction was misunderstood and so was everything else that was a precursor to it. This was about a population of emotionally sensitive people never being addressed for who they are and what they really need; emotional strength to counterbalance the emotional impact they experience every day.
Everything I did address these issue from this paradigm and my clients successfully found both relief and safety within their own selves they never had before. Drugs and alcohol weren’t intuitive when you weren’t in constant emotional impact. And the focus on their real purposes instead of the purpose of recovery as their life sentence changed everything. By focusing on who they really were, what they were here to do, they stabilized and begin to grow into their emotional adulthood.
Teaching clients how to become their emotional adult self, gave them the power they needed to take on the responsibility of themselves that they hadn’t known how to handle previously. As clients were put back on the path to their real purpose, people recovered, eliminated depression, anxiety, addiction, and their typical pattern of suffering.
I knew my job was to work myself out of a job, so I continued to stay focused on my outcomes for people so they could completely take over and stay out of the codependency dynamics so many therapeutic relationships have due to transference issues and financial motive. And I knew my job was to keep becoming healthier, happier, and more in integrity with my navigation system as my Method for elevating others around me. The better I got, the better my clients got without much of anything I was doing feeling like “work.” It was an incredible transmission of transformation, and I loved it.
I became so successful at eliminating addiction at the high-end treatment center that I was working in that people began to want to stay longer to work me individually. So the center now had packages of individual sessions clients could do after rehab, which was good for their business, and soon I had over 20 people staying in Sausalito, CA instead of flying home to continue to work with me. People got homes nearby to continue their process with me and as people came into the program at the treatment center they were requesting me to be their therapist.
Through this chapter, I began to be contacted by other high profile people for my treatment process and the demand got so great that it was time to step out and create my own company where I could run the whole operation the way I knew would help clients the best. I had an instant practice, along with requests for me to be flown to help people high profile people in LA. The floodgates were open and because confidentiality was even more important to this population I learned how to work with them both in person, remotely, and with procedures that allowed them the guarantee of confidentiality. Soon I had people also flying to me for sets of intensive recovery sessions and it was the greatest experience knowing without a doubt that people who had suffered for years didn’t have to endure it anymore.
Because I’d been working on trusting my navigation system, none of the success I was having with clients or as a professional was surprising to me. It just made sense and I felt I comfortable in that echelon knowing the people I was transforming were going to create a huge impact in the word as strong emotional leaders of themselves and the purposes they were truly here to fulfill. I knew my impact was a huge multiplier.
It was its own wonderful thing to know that whomever I took on as a client if they followed the Method, they were going to be successful, and free from a life of being in recovery. These people needed to fulfill their potential, not sit around talking about how cunning and baffling a beverage was over their life. They were intolerant to that messaging anyway and they wanted the path to living their real purpose and living their full potential. They wanted emotional empowerment, powerful self-control, consistent self-leadership, and to be of use in the world instead of feeling like a burden the way that emotionally sensitive people typically feel.
Through this reputation, I was referred the most complex client cases where others had washed their hands of people saying they were “treatment resistant.” The results I got for people and my reputation also resulted in people reaching out for help with very serious disorders like Schizophrenia and Paranoid Personality Disorder. I kept adding coaches to my team; we kept stepping up to provide a treatment option that didn’t exist anywhere else for people. We created customized, individual treatment programs exactly suited to what the client needs to make a full recovery, no matter the disorder. Through these customized, premium treatment processes that we did with each person, we accomplished what others said couldn’t be done. No matter how long the disorder, no matter how complex, the process worked when clients followed it.
Creating a strong emotional foundation was the key to clients being able to support themselves, process their own emotions and stay focused on their purpose no matter what external stimulus used to impact them. They had a process that they could implement to stay on track and get back on track any moment they fell out of connection to themselves. They went from being chronically affected, to being self-connected and aware of others without having to experience other people’s emotional impact on them. This was the ultimate liberation where there is no need for self-medication.
Eventually, clients began to tell me that they felt guilty for getting to have the Method and they wished others could experience it as well. It was my clients who encouraged me to live even more of my purpose and bring this process to the masses. So I put the process into this book, and in my virtual emotional training programs that have proven the Method works in whatever format it’s delivered in. This has allowed us to serve anyone who wants to do emotional training with us through a combination of online emotional training sessions and live virtual coaching sessions.
Having my extensive emotional training program be so successful at getting the outcomes has proven the power of the Method to strengthen people so they can live a life focused on their real priorities. Serving more people has been so fulfilling because I was guided to make sure the Method got captured in both my book and in my emotional training programs, so it can serve an infinite amount of human transformations through the progress each client makes and the impact on everyone around them when they are operating at a high emotional capacity.
Because I’ve witnessed so many success stories where family legacies have been altered it’s important to me to get the Method to as many people as possible because the reverberating impact of just one new emotionally strong person is powerful, the same way the impact of someone who is emotionally struggling creates a huge negative impact in the lives of others.
This Method helps each person live with emotional strength and empowerment, and changes the lives of everyone they bring their emotionally healthy selves in contact with. I want to elevate the concept of emotional strength to millions of people throughout my lifetime, which is why I am so appreciative of you sharing my book in your magazine.
KIMBERLY: What was the turning point in taking the steps to make your passion a business? And how have you managed to turn that into a business?
DR. THOMAS: There was a big moment on a conference call in my corporate training position where I heard myself giving an “Academy Award winning” performance of someone who cared about what I was talking about and I realized that I was living a lie that wasn’t going to allow me to be a free person. No matter how much fun it was to develop high-performance sales teams, I knew I was supposed to skip the rest of the corporate stuff I was doing and to apply my performance training skills into the realm of training people to manage their emotional performance.
It was time for the deeper work. It was time to start helping people who others felt were un-helpable; people with addictions who I knew really represented the emotionally sensitive population. I wanted the intimacy with people as well, and I knew I’d be as effective at it as I was training people in organizations.
From the first official “therapy” session I was confidently in my “therapeutic coaching” mode, and I felt completely at home as I began to assess, diagnose, treat, and train people. Seeing how people were functioning, training them on how their own operating system really worked, and seeing them become the world’s greatest living experts on themselves. It was the great next chapter of my life. I was all-in, living my purpose, providing over the top value, making the most important impact I could make in a person’s life, and being paid to be my true self. The Method I’d developed, just kept delivering on its promise. I remember feeling this feeling and saying this saying, “I am who I am and I call that a job.”
For years I’ve worked with clients in a variety of settings, one to one therapeutic coaching, interventions, virtual emotional training programs, group coaching, emotional training for couples, families, and VIP programs. We have a foundational program, an advanced 6-month program, and an open-ended training program, where people can continue training as long as they want. I love developing new content weekly as clients have continued to request the opportunity to grow their emotional capacity ongoing.
As people began to move more emotionally strong and capable, they naturally want to restructure their lives. As clients develop a rock solid emotional foundation, they want to build the life they would’ve built if they had a solid emotional foundation throughout their lives. Once clients feel that they are in the right training ground they want to break new ground all over their life, and it’s incredible to witness.
KIMBERLY: You also created an emotional training membership program, “The Dr. T Solution”! For those in the audience who isn’t quite familiar with your work yet, what is “The Dr. T Solution”? What does The Dr. T Solution uniquely offer that one cannot find anywhere else?
DR. THOMAS: The Dr. T Solution is an emotional strength training monthly membership program that contains all of the therapeutic and transformational techniques I’ve used to help my clients recondition and strengthen their emotional system, so they build the epic emotional strength they need to succeed in the most emotionally demanding and stimulating world that has ever existed.
This is a program where people who have struggled with negative emotions and self-sabotaging behaviors can grow powerful self-control over their emotions and behaviors. This training system helps people heal, strengthen, and build themselves into the most emotionally stable, emotionally focused, emotionally productive versions of themselves.
Instead of people needing to do multiple processes to address 107 problems and symptoms they have, they can go to one place to get the training they need on every emotional issue that people experience. Because emotional issues manifest in hundreds of different symptoms, having a place to address “everything emotional” is very efficient and cost effective. This was something important to me because over the years I’ve learned that the most challenging byproduct of emotional sensitivity is financial instability. I felt that it was important that people who were already emotionally struggling, have a place where they can get the solutions they need at a cost they can afford. Otherwise, the cycle of emotional and financial issues creates an ongoing legacy of struggle that continues generation after generation.
Through both online training, live coaching, and a great community, people can conquer emotional issues like anxiety, stress, depression, eating disorders, addictions, codependency, relationships, ADD, Bipolar, PTSD, Trauma, procrastination, anger, rage, overwhelm, meltdowns, freak-outs, self-esteem, worthlessness, frustration, agitation, regret, resentment, rejection, parenting, chronic pain, fatigue, exhaustion, autoimmune disorders, integrative health, productivity, performance, living with success, and hundreds of other solutions to hundreds of human struggles.
This program is designed to support people in a way that one hour of therapy per week cannot accomplish and the purpose of it is so that anyone with emotional struggles can get the solutions they need without having to choose between paying their rent and getting the support that will make the difference between them living their real purpose, or spending their lives in an array of emotional reactivity, distress, and distraction from the contribution they are here to make.
Nowhere else in the world can people get this all-inclusive and extensive emotional training process for less than a cup of coffee per day. Following my internal navigation system I was guided to remove the barriers that exist when people already emotionally sensitive, and then are afraid to invest in themselves when they clearly need support that is geared towards their emotional sensitivities.
These are the same emotional training methods that I’ve used in working with celebrities, executives, and people on the “Forbes 100 Richest Women in the World” list. These are trainings that turned around the lives of people who could afford literally anything but floundered in emotional hell until they were given this emotional training process.
KIMBERLY: Dr. Thomas, you have just launched your new book “The Method, The Practical Path to Living Your Purpose and Potential”, congratulations again! So, can you describe what The Method is? There are so many programs out there. What is it about The Method that sets it apart from so many other approaches to personal growth, financial stability, abundance, and happiness?
DR. THOMAS: The Method is the most practical, applicable, implementable, emotional training process that exists. It’s the mechanics that are needed for people to manage their emotions and their behaviors according to what they want to feel, do, and experience. This is essential because if you just look at the landscape out there, traditional therapy has existed for a long time and so have many modalities that are all treating the symptoms emotional impact.
We’ve never had more therapists, coaches, practitioners, healers, doctors, programs and information, but if it the reality is that people are struggling emotionally more than ever and so are the people treating them because they are just as emotionally sensitive as the people they want to help. It’s emotionally sensitive people that are the healers but don’t have the strength to sustain themselves when they are immersed in other emotionally sensitive energies.
If people could actually change their emotional issues they would, but most processes are entirely awareness and empathy based, leaving people unclear as exactly what to do to experience big emotional changes in themselves. The truth is that in the moment people experience emotional impact they are already losing what their life could be if they didn’t experience the impact at all.
We need people to be able to sustain a consistent emotional environment within themselves, versus having the environment outside them always dictating what their internal environment experiences. This lack of control is why there is so much trauma, distress, pain, and dysfunction going on. The Method teaches people how to practically create a consistently connected experience with themselves so their connection to other people doesn’t override their ability to be stable, solid, and selective in each moment.
This is a practical process that people can easily adopt so that they become emotionally strong and connected versus emotionally vulnerable and affected. When you change the way you experience the life you don’t have to recover from just being a person. This Method is an enjoyable discipline that clients love to do, which is why it’s also effective. People only do what they enjoy anyway, and what gets the immediate results, Knowing human psychology that was a priority for creating a Method that would repeatedly work.
KIMBERLY: What would you say is one of the biggest breakthroughs that your clients have discovered as they incorporated The Method into their lives?
DR. THOMAS: They all say that they feel like they finally have “the instruction manual for being a person” and it is a consistent theme for clients to say they wish they had this Method all of their lives. They want others to be able to have the Method as well because they care about people being as emotionally empowered as they get to be. The giddiness they feel in being one of “the lucky ones” can also be followed by some survivor’s guilt when they think about others who are suffering. Overall, they make a dramatic shift from the paradigm of “getting through life” to this hunger to fully embrace life and go “all in” on everything they’ve ever felt afraid of. They embrace the future, and are excited about living the rest of their lives with an emotional capacity that they know will keep them safe and emotionally available to themselves as life unfolds. They feel secure and begin to live in a relaxed state of focus versus a constant state of tension and bracing for impact.
KIMBERLY: Equally, what would you identify as one of the biggest challenges many have encountered?
DR. THOMAS: Before someone becomes a client, you can feel they know they’ve found their gateway to living their potential, however, they’ve had such extensive emotionally impactful experience that they can be trapped in this constant state of protection. It’s painful to see people use a protective strategy that was once one of the only things they had to deal with the emotional impact, and yet that strategy can never give them what they want because the physics won’t allow it. Choosing from what you don’t want only creates more of it.
The challenge is that the exact emotional strategies people used to survive their previous lives, will actually keep them from getting the help they need. If you protect yourself, then you’ll protect yourself out of the exact solutions you’ve been praying for. If you’ve been emotionally distracted and manifested procrastination as a pattern, then you’ll procrastinate yourself out of the help you need. The exact emotional issues people want to change are the exact emotional issues that get in the way of them making the change.
This emotional paradox is the most frustrating thing for me to see people do to themselves, and fortunately, I can help people through that paradox when they allow me to. If you don’t go the extra moment to support people through these moments they will just repeat the self-sabotaging pattern even though they came to change it. Once they understand this emotional paradox they begin to realize that they have to proceed with what they want versus what they don’t want. When self-actualization becomes more important that self-protection then a person can live their full potential. These are the moments that I love the most because I know with 100% certainty that when they come forward the Method will work for them. That certainly I have is also what makes the Method so effective.
KIMBERLY: Now that you have established this foundation of Emotional Strength Training, where has The Method taken you next?
DR. THOMAS: Kimberly, my big focus is on getting the Method and my transformational solutions into as many people’s awareness as possible, through both the book and The Dr. T Solution program. Because I know so many people are suffering with emotional sensitivity without truly being able to operate at their highest level, I want people to know that being an empathic, intuitive person isn’t a life sentence of reactivity, overwhelm, distractibility, self-protection, trauma, turmoil, and living under their potential, while watching the strongest people get to have all the fun.
I am really fired up about how many people can get help through The Dr. T Solution emotional strength training program, because when people combine their caring nature with rock-solid emotional strength, then the world gets the greatest assets there are: truly compassionate and emotionally strong leaders who can bring their gifts forth without impact on themselves. Through emotional strength, emotionally sensitive people can stop holding back because they were protecting themselves from the intensity of success. When the strength replaces the stress that is where the really fulfilling kind of success flow.
I’m really inspired for the emotionally sensitive community, to become emotionally strong, so that our world can be full of the kind of compassionate, innovative, intuitive, strong leadership it needs. Otherwise, we will continue to see our culturally collective emotional instability be reflected in a world that makes emotionally sensitive people even more contracted. I’m thrilled to help strengthen and launch these genius healers into the rest of their lives and careers with the most foundational emotional training a person can receive. This is why I feel the greatest business strategy should always include an emotional strategy.
KIMBERLY: If our readers wanted to reach you, where can they find you?
DR. THOMAS: The Dr. T Solution Emotional Strength Training Center can be found at thedrtsolution.com you can also go to drtracyinc.com to connect with me and learn about all of my offerings and opportunities for emotional training.
KIMBERLY: Is there a final message you want to let the audience know? Or just any last little words that you have for them?
DR. THOMAS: Because I know your audience cares so much about healing the world, sharing their gifts, building their businesses, and making their contributions, I want everyone to know that no matter how emotionally sensitive, empathic, intuitive, and multisensory you are, that in living in this Earthly place, it’s important that your emotional strength develop in order to make strengthening others as important as healing. There is something powerful about stopping the cycle of trauma that comes from experiencing the everyday PTSD that comes from being empathic. And with emotional strength, you truly eliminate the trauma from happening to you and happening to those that you’re helping to heal.
Not experiencing any further trauma is the greatest strategy one can do and sometimes when the entire focus is on healing versus strengthening, trauma just keeps piling on and that leaves people having to heal stuff that they can actually begin to avoid from a place of greater immunity to emotional impact. I wish for everyone to experience that combines the superpower of being multisensory with the superpower of being emotionally strong because it’s such a winning combination.
KIMBERLY: Thank you, Dr. Thomas, very much! It has been such a pleasure chatting with you today!
DR. THOMAS: It’s been exceptional to have this conversation with you Kimberly. I’m celebrating your mission of 5000 x 5000 x 5. People are so fortunate such a conscious leader providing such incredible service, at a time our world needs it the most. We can do it!
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