Is this your typical day?
Hit the snooze button three times. You tossed and turned all night because your head won’t shut off with all that you have to do tomorrow and all the things you didn’t get to today.
Hop, jump across the floor to get your pants or socks on while waking up the kids – we are late.
Run downstairs and start throwing food into bowls or the toaster or ripping open a yogurt so that they are fed. Jam an ice pack into the lunch bag that you are smart enough to pack the night before but have unknowingly forgotten the spoon to their yogurt and the library books that are due today.
Rush the kids to eat, rush to school, quickly kiss them goodbye and high tail it for work hoping to have time to grab a coffee because you are exhausted and you need a jolt to get your brain and nervous system working to be able to function somewhat as a human being at work. All the while thinking about all of the things you have to do after work and did you remember to pull something out for supper or is it another fast food night and why are your pants so tight – oh yes you fell off your exercise regime AGAIN.
That was my day every day for many years. In fact, add to it that I worked downtown Calgary in Architecture. I am not sure when the insanity set in but I do remember when it left.
My fear of not being good enough, or being able to do it all, or being judged by those that did not have kids, add huge amounts of stress to the equation and I was not a nice person to myself or anyone around me.
Yes, my first daughter was an angel. I loved her dearly and would rip the arm from anyone who tried to harm her. This at the time appeared to be a loving thought rather than the stressed out neurotic thoughts of an overwhelmed woman. We struggled with stress induced fertility and through alternative means, BodyTalk, we conceived. You would think for a bright woman who worked herself up through the ranks of a male-dominated construction industry I would have clued in. Not so. Rather I decided to have my second child and used the same therapy to conceive that little beauty as well. When the time came to announce the pregnancy at work it hit me. I hated my life.
I hated rushing around. I hated dragging my first daughter into downtown so early in the morning. I hated working 50 hour work weeks and not getting time to myself or to play, sing and snuggle my daughter. I hated not laughing and enjoying life.
So what did I do? I turned again to Alternative Healing methods to help balance me out and regain life. Yes, life. Real life, not mundane tasks and chores. This even included opening my own Complementary Medicine business!
I am going to share with you the top three things that keep me, my family, and my life in balance:
This automatically puts everything back into balance. Your hormone function, your adrenals relax, your digestive system relaxes and all of the blood circulation that is in your limbs due to the stress (fight/flight mode) is returned to your core. Helping you to digest, detoxify and stay balanced.
Body, Mind, and Spirit are all balanced first.
I now kiss my babies awake who are no longer babies but rather 11 & 8. I wake them gently. We laugh and tickle. We get ready and talk excitedly about what is going to happen that day. We choose together what we are going to eat for breakfast and the only fight is over what song we are going to sing to on the radio on the way to school. I am grateful for the experience of being in Architecture so that I know how sweet my life is now that I have taken back control by starting and ending my day in balance and gratitude.