“Every day in every way I am getting better and better.”
This is what I used to say to get myself say on the path of my healing. I have also used it to help myself look at my business as a huge part of my growth knowing it helps me dig deeper each day into the issues that being a Spiritual Business owner presents to me.
What I have discovered is that my business is really like a step into SHOW Business. When I read this, it scared me and yet I read further and it then began to make total sense to me. We all know that one of the biggest challenges is being in that crowded marketplace. That we need to be seen, be visible and get really clear about the role we are auditioning for. I know there is a ton of coaches out there to help you with your business and I can do that BUT I knew there was deeper work to be done.
I side stepped this for a long time because I knew that my topic was going to open big wounds for a lot of people, and that scared me and sometimes still does. Yet I knew it had to be done. I knew that the abuse of my past literally stopped me in my business so many times and in so many ways that I could no longer deny that this WAS my business. I had taken so many programs and acquired so many modalities and it seemed that nothing was working to get me out there.
I could also do readings as I get messages all the time for people when I work with them and the problem I had with that was that the messages that I got were often not what people wanted to hear. They did not want to hear that that man that they were dating was just another part of their lesson here and that the job that they hated was not going to lead them anywhere but to a deeper look inside themselves.
That they needed to set boundaries, to say NO and mean it, not to be so hard on themselves or to stop comparing themselves to others. We need to know that in our businesses but the deeper issue is often forgiveness of themselves and others, that that bad business deal or encounter was telling them that they should have listened to that first thought they had and not second guess themselves.
I have finally started asking myself “What am I really selling?” This big question is behind products and advertising and hopefully our businesses. What I was selling was forgiveness but in a big way. I realized that, as I was no longer playing the victim or survivor role, I had to go back to where I had come from.
So when I began to talk about Forgiving the Unforgivable, people were more interested in my story and how I got to that point. Then when I started to talk about that subject, I started seeing more people on the net talking about forgiveness but not in the way I wanted to talk about it. I also found out that many of them talked about abuse but that they had not actually come from the type of background I came from. They had not gone through incest, multiple rapes, and domestic violence.
So my business really began to push me once again out of my comfort zone as I then had to write out programs to help people release those victim masks, those survivor masks and get to see and believe that wonderful being that was beneath all that; to begin to talk about vibration and that it needs to be changed so that we can change.
This business has truly been a huge growth process for me and as I become more comfortable talking about all the ways our abusive pasts stop us, I have more women come up to me for help. Now the only thing that really bugs me is the fact that I would also like to help all the men that are out there as well, so my dilemma begins again. As I know that we are “ supposed” to find a niche. Or are we?
I now rejoice every day in how far I have come. I recently completed a visibility challenge and had no problem talking about so many of the issues that many in the group struggled with and my intuition kept telling me that there was often some kind of verbal abuse from their past that is continuing to stop them.
I now see all of my life as the gift that it is…even the difficult and painful ones.
The beliefs I want to leave you with are these: